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What to do when someone ghosts you after asking for your calendar link

What to do when someone ghosts you after asking for your calendar link

They asked for your calendar, then vanished... now what?

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Jul 02, 2025
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Alex stared at her phone screen in the Whole Foods parking lot, reading the same text message for the third time: "Sounds perfect! Send me your calendar link 😊"

That was 5 days ago.

She'd immediately sent her Calendly link with a warm message about looking forward to their conversation. Since then? Complete silence.

The prospect, Maria, had been so enthusiastic during their DM exchange. She'd shared specific challenges about scaling her consulting business, asked detailed questions about Alex's program, and seemed genuinely excited to explore working together.

Now Alex felt like she was staring at digital tumbleweeds.

As she sat there, watching other shoppers load groceries into their cars, Alex noticed something that made her stomach sink. A woman was struggling to get her elderly mother into the passenger seat, clearly frustrated but trying to stay patient.

"Mom, we talked about this," the woman said gently. "You wanted to come shopping with me."

"I know, dear," the elderly woman replied. "I just... I got overwhelmed in there. Too many people, too much noise. I need a moment."

The daughter didn't push. She didn't remind her mother that she'd asked to come. Instead, she simply said, "That's okay. Take your time. No pressure."

Alex watched them sit together quietly for a few minutes before the mother felt ready to get in the car.

Walking into the store, Alex realized she'd been witnessing the exact approach she needed for Maria's situation.

The Calendar Link Graveyard

Back home, Alex opened her CRM and faced an uncomfortable truth. Maria wasn't alone. Over the past three months, 17 people had enthusiastically asked for her calendar link, then vanished completely after receiving it.

Seventeen warm leads. Gone.

Her usual follow-up approach had been to send friendly reminders: "Just checking if you had a chance to book your call!" or "Wanted to make sure my calendar link didn't get lost!"

Each follow-up felt more desperate than the last. And none of them worked.

Alex realized she'd been treating calendar ghosting like a booking problem when it was actually an overwhelm problem. Just like the woman in the parking lot, these prospects weren't rejecting her – they were feeling overwhelmed by the commitment of scheduling a call.

The Gentle Presence Approach

Inspired by the daughter's patient approach, Alex started using what I now call the Gentle Presence Method – a way to re-engage ghosted prospects without adding pressure:

🔹 The Quiet Check-In Instead of mentioning the calendar or booking, simply acknowledge their initial interest while giving them space.

Example: "I've been thinking about what you shared regarding the challenge of scaling without burning out. That pressure to be 'always on' is so real for consultants."

🔹 The No-Agenda Value Drop Share something relevant to their situation without any expectation of response or action.

Example: "Came across an article about boundary-setting that reminded me of your situation. No agenda here – just thought you might find it interesting: [link]"

🔹The Permission-Free Follow-Up Continue the conversation about their challenges rather than trying to restart the booking process.

Example: "How have you been handling that client expectation management issue you mentioned… finding any strategies that help, or still feeling pulled in all directions?"

Your Calendar Ghost Recovery System

Transform disappeared prospects back into engaged conversations:

1️⃣ Step 1: The Mindset Reset
Stop treating calendar ghosting as rejection. Most people get overwhelmed by the commitment of scheduling, not your offer itself.

2️⃣ Step 2: The Pressure Release
Remove all mention of booking, calendars, or next steps from your follow-up messages. Focus entirely on their situation and wellbeing.

3️⃣ Step 3: The Value Bridge
Share insights, resources, or observations related to their specific challenges without asking for anything in return.

4️⃣ Step 4: The Natural Reconnection
Ask about their current situation or progress on the challenges they originally shared, showing genuine interest in their success.

5️⃣ Step 5: The Patient Presence
Allow the conversation to rebuild naturally before considering any mention of calls or next steps.

6️⃣ Step 6: The Soft Re-Invitation
Only after re-establishing genuine connection should you consider mentioning a conversation again, framed as exploring their situation rather than selling your program.

7️⃣ Step 7: The Respectful Release
If they don't re-engage after gentle attempts, respect their silence and focus on leads who are ready to move forward.

From Ghost Story to Success Story

Two weeks after implementing the Gentle Presence Method, Alex received a message that made her heart skip:

"Hi Alex! I'm so sorry I disappeared. I got completely overwhelmed thinking about adding another call to my schedule. Thank you for checking in about the boundary stuff – that article was exactly what I needed. Are you still open to chatting?"

It was Maria.

During their eventual discovery call, Maria explained what had happened:

"When I asked for your calendar, I was excited but also terrified. I've had so many sales calls that felt pushy or overwhelming. When you kept checking in about my actual business challenges instead of pressuring me to book, I realized you actually cared about helping me, not just enrolling me."

Maria enrolled in Alex's program that week.

Over the following months, Alex's gentle approach successfully re-engaged 12 of her 17 calendar ghosts. Eight of them eventually booked calls, and five became clients.

The coach who used to feel desperate watching prospects disappear after requesting her calendar now had a systematic way to maintain relationships without applying pressure.

Alex learned that sometimes the most powerful follow-up isn't a follow-up at all – it's simply showing up as a caring human being who remembers what someone shared… and continues to think about their success.

The calendar link isn't the finish line – it's just one small step in a longer relationship journey.

When someone gets overwhelmed by scheduling, the solution isn't louder reminders… it's quieter presence.

Just like that daughter in the parking lot, sometimes the kindest thing you can do is remove all pressure and simply stay present until someone feels ready to take the next step.

Today’s Mega-Prompt: DM Re-Entry After Ghosted Calendar Drop

They said yes. You sent the link. Then… nothing.
This prompt helps you pick the conversation back up… without sounding like a bot, or begging for their time.

Inside today’s mega-prompt, paid members get three subtle, human-first re-engagement messages designed to:

✔ Nudge the convo forward without feeling like a follow-up
✔ Preserve trust and tone, no matter how long it’s been
✔ Match your voice… whether you’re warm, curious, or playful

The right re-entry doesn’t chase. It opens the door again. If your calendar link keeps getting ghosted, this is the quiet reframe that gets conversations moving again. Upgrade now to unlock the re-entry messages that sound like you… just... better 👇🏾

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